What does one make of this time?
A time filled to the very edge
with emotions almost unbearable.
At first taste, sadness.
But then again joy,
and pride and fulfillment.
Yes, it is our son
who is leaving this time –
the last to go,
farther away than the first.
But in the symbol of the leaving
is also the daughter, the first.
For something deeply significant happens
this time around
for mother and father –
the close of a chapter
never to be repeated.
And we stand in awe
of what, or rather, who
has come to be.
For we, husband and wife, have loved
out of a oneness
that we have been destined to live.
And out of that oneness
has blossomed life
that in this strange mystery
that we are all part of,
has shared deeply in our union
and yet has always been meant
to branch off
into something uniquely awesome,
to find its own magic
As we look upon the two of you,
as we willingly share you
beyond the womb of home,
we ache to have you understand
for us and within us.
The heaviness in our hearts at this time
is a mere fraction
of the weight of our love for each of you.
It is a bursting of pride
in who you have become.
It is the fullness of our blessing
with which we christen this new chapter
that now begins in earnest.
Looking upon the two of you
we can say to ourselves, “Well done!”
And to you, our dear children,
friends and companions for ever, we say:
seek your unique meanings
with respect for,
but with freedom from, the past;
be forgiving of yourself and those of us you love;
do not expect perfection but
in gentleness call forth the good and the true;
share your blessedness
with all who enter your destiny;
do not give up your search
for the fullness of God;
and continue to drink
from the wellspring of love.
© 1998 Dennis Ference
I sure can relate to this. I remember the unexpected grief that struck me when my last child left home…
A bit of an earthquake isn’t it? Thanks for sharing. –Dennis
Dennis this is most touching and true and universal – it is a strange bond and link, which daily makes us think of those we reared to maturity and that daily concern for their weelbeing becomes a meaning to live more – in turn they too share the same emotions of love and concern – what a packet of love the Lord has created to sustain us and add colour to lives in their autumns. – the greatest blessings are when our kids are successful and honourable members of society – those are the real successful beings who have managed to rear others to exceed themselves in many respects.
Thanks Indrajit. You’ve added beautiful insight to this reflection. –Dennis
Warm, personal and very human, Dennis.
Peace and Love
There is so much meaning to experience in the raw human experience. Peace and love to you, also. –Dennis
Beautiful! A tear was shed in the reading of this.
Thanks Emily. I hope the tear was at least, in part, joyful. –Dennis
Oh, Dennis! You have deeply touched my heart with this one. It is so honest, so profound. Every parent will resonate with this…but the true beauty is it transcends the traditional parent child relationship, and could be a blessing from ourselves to our inner child, or a blessing from our Spiritual Father! So beautiful ❤
Lorrie, what an absolutely magnificent insight. I truly hope others pause to read your comment before moving on in their reading. Thank you so much and may that blessing you wrote about be wholly yours today. –Dennis
Goosebumps! How fabulous to hear the words of other parents whose children have brought them such fulfillment of God’s love.
And wonderful to hear that other parents can relate to these words. Peace! –Dennis
Thanks, Jennifer. -Dennis
Reblogged this on Chopping Potatoes and commented:
I will read this whenever I wish these moments away. So much better than ‘Enjoy them while they’re young. It goes by so fast.’ Thank you, Dennis Ference.
Thank you for the reblog. Always encouraging to know a creation resonates with others. –Dennis
There is still time —and time is a -flying— before mine will set off on their own wings, but I can feel the pain already. Thank you for that cathartic verse.
I am gratified that it touched you. Peace to you and your family. –Dennis
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